While recovering from trauma, survivors have a chance to find a voice, meaning, and even beauty.
As a psychiatrist for over 10 years, I have had the privilege of bearing witness to a great deal of human suffering.
The current pandemic has shown us, mental health professionals, the dire consequences of human disconnection and social isolation. Humans do not do well alone. We need to bond with others, and we need to feel seen, heard, touched, and loved, not only to thrive, but also to survive.
It seems that COVID-19 has taken the mask off the tip of a huge iceberg. It has forced us to come face to face with a profound challenge. We might not be able to heal trauma, but the process of facing trauma can itself become the source of light, delight, and healing.
Many trauma survivors continue to go through the revolving door of a broken system. This is in part because many therapists are not comfortable listening to painful traumatic and graphic details.
I owe it to my clients and trauma survivors worldwide to be ready to listen when they are ready to share. I focus on these seven themes in my model, which I call Trauma Heals:
My beloved mentor, professor Richard Mollica of the Harvard Program for Refugee Trauma, taught me to search for beauty in every interpersonal encounter, and my late mother left me with her last words: “if you cannot be the source of someone’s joy and delight, don’t be the source of their pain and distress.” Love does indeed heal even the most extreme of traumatic stories.
Dr Reda is a Practicing Psychiatrist, Providence Healthcare System, Portland, OR. He reports no conflicts of interest concerning the subject matter of this article.